Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Pre-op testing

Today I went back to my family doctor for my pre-operation testing. Since I had most of the tests only 2 months ago I only needed to redo a few things. Like blood tests.

I am not bad when it comes to needles, really don't mind them too much. I give blood regularly when the Red Cross blood drive comes to work. Two things i do know about myself are:

  1. I have the best blood type = A+, like a grade in school
  2. I have deep veins

I tried to tell the phlebotomist that, and that everyone has the best luck on my right arm. Well of course she tried the left arm, and did not hit the vein. UGH@! Nothing came out. That's when I get a little nervous. Are they going to try and move it around in there trying to find the vein? That hurts when they do that.

Luckily she pulled the needle out and went to the right arm and hit it right away. Wish she would have listened to me the first time.

Talked to Dr. Campbell, who must be all of 30, about what had happened since the first PSA test. He was very supportive, took a lot of time and we talked about many things that I will be facing over the next month. He took his time and stayed there until I had no more questions. I told him he is the one who got the ball rolling during my physical, told him the story of how God is working in this. I like him, if you need a family doctor, I recommend him.

Rest of day we moved more of Aunt Rhoda's stuff to Chapel Grove, then took her to Olive Garden. Angela had picked her up at 11 AM and they had been at her house all day cleaning and pitching stuff out.

Praise Report: My mom went out to eat! Her and dad went to Garfield's after her therapy. She even got her nails done. Hope this means she is turning the corner.

Keep praying for sister in law Pam and her thyroid.

Pressing On! In Christ Alone!

Saturday, April 25, 2009

Weekly update and prayer request

Please pray for my sister in law, Pam. The 1st report from her surgery was no cancer, but as she was being released from the hospital, the Doctor told her they did find cancer in the part of the thyroid they removed.

As you can imagine, this is a frustrating and confusing time. She goes to an oncologist in a couple of weeks so pray the god's grace and mercy will continue to be with her and her family.

As for me I have my pre-op testing this week and have to give more blood. So pray for my strength to hold up.

Pressing on! In Christ Alone!

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

1st Aid 1st

I was talking to a Christian friend at work today about my cancer and he relayed a story his Pastor shared with his family when they were going through some medical problems with their son.

His Pastor told him there are 3 types of aid available in our lives:

1st Aid should taking our concerns to God
2nd Aid should be taking our requests to fellow believers
3rd Aid should be going to the Doctor or other medical professional.

The Pastor made the point that this can happen in a short period of time, because we do not know God's plan for us. Sometimes God chooses to heal quickly, sometimes slowly, and sometimes not at all, until we get a new body in Heaven.

God also works through Doctors to bring his plans for us to reality. So it does not show a lack of faith to go to the Doctor.

Something to keep in mind for the future.

Praise Report: Pam Thomas thyroid surgery went fine, no cancer!

Sunday, April 19, 2009

Cancer Update

Nothing much new this week.

Had to schedule all pre-op testing, apply for medical leave at work, etc. Mostly administrative stuff.

Continue to be amazed at the out pouring of love, kind words, and hopeful comments from those around me. Please do not under estimate what a kind word of encouragement can mean to someone.

This is my new favorite song and will be the theme song for my upcoming difficult journey through cancer. This song confirms that things will be OK with me, regardless of the outcome.



Pray for my sister-in-law Pam Thomas who is having surgery this Tuesday on her thyroid, Dick Woodyard who is waiting for test results on possible cancer, and all of the others who are fighting the fight of cancer everyday. May God comfort and bless them on their journey.

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

The S Word

By Pat Lencioni

Recently I received a note from a reader, I’ll call her Carrie (because that’s her name), asking a question and suggesting that I answer it in this POV. Essentially, she wanted to understand why socialism is a bad thing, especially in the context of the Christian commandments to love thy neighbor, care for the poor and avoid materialism. This is a terrific and important question, one that is not discussed enough in society.

I must admit that, as a youngster, I often wondered why people were so down on socialism, and its cousin, communism. In fact, I thought those sounded like the best ways to run a society because sharing and caring and compassion are the right ways to live.

As I became a young adult, I began to understand how the reality of socialism radically differs from the theory, and that even the theory itself has fatal flaws. When it comes right down to it, I think there are two big reasons why socialism is a really, really bad idea.

First, it just doesn’t work. At least not for very long. That’s because people are flawed and, outside of a family, a religious order, or a small group of friends, they will not continually work hard for the ‘greater good’ if they do not receive the fruits of that work themselves. As an economics major in college, I learned that this theory had a name: ‘the free-loader effect’. It is the natural tendency of people to do less and less work when they realize that they won’t see a proportionate decrease in what they can get for it.

Over time—and this is an inevitable consequence of the free-loader effect—socialist societies experience decreasing productivity, risk-taking, and innovation, along with increasing tax rates, promises of government programs, and expectations from citizens about what they can get from those programs. When the economy inevitably falters under its own weight, those expectations cannot be met.

Unfortunately, by the time enough citizens realize this is happening it is often too late for them to go back and try a different approach because there are more people in society who expect benefits from the government than there are people who pay for them. And thus begins the long, gradual descent to economic and motivational malaise. Ironically, the class of people who socialism is supposed to help—the poor—only grows because they are joined by more and more people who drop out of the shrinking middle class.

The second reason why I believe socialism is such a bad idea is very much related to the first, but much more important to me as a Christian: it diminishes the dignity of human beings. In socialist societies, individuals grow increasingly dependent on the government for their well-being, and less and less confident that they are capable of and responsible for themselves. This is an inevitable recipe for cynicism, fatalism and depression.

And as the government plays a larger and larger role in the lives of people, it inevitably crowds out faith in God. Not only does this make sense from a logical standpoint, it turns out that it was the intentional design of the men who invented socialism, communism and Marxism. Marx and Lenin were very clear that atheism was key to the success of the socio-economic systems they promoted, and that people should turn to the state for their needs, not to God. This has played out again and again as socialist countries experience a significant drop in the faith of its people, and in great irony, a rapid decline in charitable giving, volunteerism and civic-mindedness.

So why do well-intentioned people continue to tolerate or be indifferent about the growth of socialism? For one, we often don’t realize that it is happening. That’s because socialism does not usually spring up over night. Instead, it creeps. Little by little we grow accustomed to new and higher taxes (“it’s just a one percent increase in the sales tax”), more government programs (“how can I vote against free ‘fill-in-the-blank” for children?”), and the false lure of getting something for nothing.

Beyond that, as the question that prompted this article suggested, we often feel good about socialism because we mistakenly conclude that it is altruistic and compassionate. But there is no escaping the moral bankruptcy of failing to ask ourselves if those feelings actually translate into sustainable, lasting benefit for the people we are trying to help. If the answer is ‘no’, then we have a moral duty to stop supporting those programs, no matter how hard that might be for our egos to accept.

So what are we to do if we want to act on our desire to do good and make a difference? Work hard. Create jobs. Treat our employees with dignity and love. Give generously of our money and our time to good charities and directly to those in need. And demand that our government compassionately provide effective programs and services for those who are truly incapable of providing for themselves.

But we should never, ever, support a program, a tax or a proposal that makes us feel good but ends up making the lives of the people we are supposed to be helping, and the society in which they live, more difficult and dependent.

Thanks for your question, Carrie. Happy Tax Day!

Monday, April 13, 2009

Surgery: T minus 30 days and counting

Angela and I met with Doctor Kaufman today to finalize treatment options and got some relatively good news.

My cancer is rated as T1c, which is the lowest form of prostate cancer, comparable to stage 1 in other forms of cancer. We talked a lot about pros and cons of all the options and decided to have a radical prostatectomy, which is an actual removal of the prostate. Doctor Kaufman explained that this is the only treatment option where the side effects get better with age and not worse.

The surgery is scheduled for May 14. I have to do some pre-op testing and donate some blood to myself, in case it is needed. I will be off works for 2 weeks for sure, work at home week 3 and back at work week 4, if all goes well.

I am going to take one of our products we make, Juven, before and after to help with the healing. Maybe I can make a TV commercial for them? since i am employee, they probably will not pay me anything extra.

My Sunday school class had special prayer for us yesterday, it was very nice and I appreciate them doing that very much.

On a lighter note, Tyler called today and he won the "Technology Teacher of the Year" award in Shelby County schools. BIG honor and I am very proud of him. More details to follow when he sends them.

Pressing On!

Friday, April 10, 2009

Why me?

Last Tuesday, I was flying back from Chicago, when Angela called and said, "Doctor Kaufman wants you to call him right away." Since Doctor Kaufman is my urologist and I just had a biopsy on my prostate last Thursday, I was prepared for the worst.

I got it, I have prostate cancer.

Wow, just writing those words makes me feel a little different. It is not the most aggressive kind or the slowest growing, somewhere in the middle. He used the words "treatable and curable" which made me feel a little better, but I know the next few months will not be fun.

We meet with the Doctor on Monday to finalize a course of treatment, but I am leaning towards surgery. That is what the Doctor recommended, and he came highly recommended, and has the best "cure" rate of the other options.

Since, Tuesday, Angela and I have prayed a lot, shed a few tears, and have found out what kind of people we have around us. Many, many people have called, sent e-mails, or just stopped by my office at work to be an encouragement to me, and offer words of hope and encouragement. It makes me realize that I know many very good people and that my life has made a difference in people around me.

So why me? As Tyler told me, God picked me to go through this valley, because he knew I could handle it and that people will be watching me to see if my faith holds. Tyler also told me to get excited about what God is going to do, but that is going to take a little longer. My faith is strong, I know I will be fine.

The reasons why I am doing fine are; 1) is no symptoms and 2) I see God working to get me to this point. I often ask my class at church to look for how God is working around them, this is what I see:
  • In January of 2009, Angela's insurance changed
  • Our old family Doctor did not take the new insurance
  • The new family Doctor insisted on a complete physical for all new patients.
  • Completed first colonoscopy in my life, all clear
  • All blood tests came back fine, except PSA which was a 10
  • Went on antibiotics for 30 days and took another blood test
  • PSA had already gone up to 12
  • Biopsy results were supposed to take 7 to 10 days
  • 3 working days later I got the call
  • The night I got the call, when I got home from the airport, there was a 2 page article in the paper about treatment options for someone with prostate cancer.

What are the odds? 100% (With God, the odds of anything happening are always 100%).

Think about it this way, if all of the above had not happened, I would be sitting here with cancer and not even knowing it!

So I think i will use my blog to keep you updated and provide record of how God will get me through all of what waits for me. I hope it is an encouragement to you or someone you love.Keep

Angela, also in your prayers. This will be hard on her, but there is no one I would rather have by my side than her.

Pressing On!

Monday, April 06, 2009

I am Second

http://www.iamsecond.com/

Corey showed this cool website last night. I looked it up today and think everyone would benefit by viewing it.

You might know someone in one of these situations and that would benefit by making themselves second. Feel free to pass this on!

Jeff

Thursday, April 02, 2009

Now the waiting begins

Just got home a few hours ago from my biopsy. Without going into details, I would not recommend anyone doing this that does not have to. The Doctor told me that the results would back within 7 to 10 days, so now the waiting begins.

When I got there I was so nervous (imagine that) my blood pressure was 160 over 110! But I really felt the prayers and got calmed down before the Doctor came in.

I wore an Ohio State shirt and my OSU watch and as Doctor Kaufman came in he took one look at me and said, "I went to Michigan State". I thought I was in big trouble after that, but we talked basketball the whole time, and I think that was God's way to get my mind off of things.

Yesterday, Brandon and Corey and I got Aunt Rhodie moved into Chapel Grove. Angela went out there today and Rhodie loves it!!!! She has already found someone from where she was raised, so things there are going very well.

Brandon also played a stupid April Fool's joke that was so dumb, I am not even going to talk about it. Guess with everything going on, my emotions are still a little raw.

Congrats to my nephew, Nate and his new Bride, Beth. They got married yesterday as well.

Working from home tomorrow to let things heal up some more. Thanks to all who called, sent emails, and prayed for us today, I felt the prayers.

Pressing On!!